Life Happiness 101
The Laws of Happiness
31 Happiness Insights from Med Jones
(Selected Insights courtesy the International Institute of
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Happiness Law 1: The Sheep
The sheep state of mind
A wise man once wrote "we, people, are like sheep,
the sheep goes through life, following other sheep to discover at
the end of its life, that the other sheep were following it".
Are you doing what makes you really happy? Or are you following the
Happiness Law 2: Love
Love is Life. Hate is Death. Fall in Love with
Lets research the facts, you did not come to life
on your own, it was an act of love by two other people. After you
where conceived, you did not stay alive on your own, you are alive
today because of the acts of love of other people including your
family, and indirectly the communities they lived in. Life is
designed to sustain itself through love. Love is the driving force
of life. The biological, psychological, environmental and
socioeconomic burdens to get your mom pregnant, keep her pregnant,
give birth and sustain your life until adulthood are enormous. The
burden is not only on your parent but also on your community and
environment. Yet you were given this chance and you were loved.
Today you are alive because of the love of others. So regardless how
imperfect your current living conditions or people around you, if
you choose love, you will have the force in you to survive and
thrive and if you chose hate you will almost certainly suffer.
Happiness Law 3: Gratitude
Happiness is Gratitude. Adopt an attitude of
You probably heard this many times before, but
consider the following science of life, you are unbelievably lucky
to have won the lottery of life. The chances of winning is so low
that it is a miracle that you are alive today. If you examine the
act of conceiving a human life. Your chances of winning life is one
in billions. The average sperm count is 300 millions multiplied into
many attempts. Considering the sperm microscopic size, in each
attempt, the sperm must travel an equivalent of 43 miles (69km) in a
very hostile chemical environment. As stated in Happiness Law 2, The
biological, psychological, environmental and socioeconomic burdens
to keep the pregnancy after conception, give birth and sustain your
life are enormous, not only on your parent but also on your
community. Yet you were given this chance and you were are alive
today. If you consider this fact, no matter what you get or lose in
life, you cannot help but be thankful for being alive.
Having the attitude of gratitude will help you see
things clearer, brighter and make you happier.
Happiness Law 4: Attachment & Detachment
Attachment is the cause of all sufferings, so is
It is true that the more you invest your emotions,
effort, time or money in something (or in someone) the more likely
youíll feel the pain when you lose them. So some people choose to
detach themselves from things or others to avoid the experience of
pain. The other side of the coin, if you disengage from life you
will miss most of what life has to offer you including the great
experiences. What's ironic is that the monks that advocate
detachment philosophy become attached to detachment
Happiness Law 5: Happiness Is Not
Happiness is not a Goal. Either you are happy or
you are not.
It does not matter who you are, where you are or what you do, either
you are happy or not. Happiness is a state of mind. Regardless of
your goals in life or where you are going, you can travel your
life's journey happy or unhappy.
Happiness Law 5: Perfection
Happiness is Tolerance. Nothing and no one is
perfect. To be happy let go of that idea and forgive yourself and
If you join the perfectionistís club, be ready to live most of your
life disappointed, offended and lonely. Nothing is more conducive to
your own happiness than tolerance. You do not have to turn your
cheek the other away, you just have to let go and go on with your
life, for your own sake.
Happiness Law 7: Mistakes
Happiness is Learning. Live through your mistakes
not with them
Do I need to explain this? If you play the blame game against
yourself or other, you will not be happy.
Happiness Law 8: Change It.
Happiness is Change. If it is not working, change
If your job, relationship or lifestyle is not working for you then
fix it. If you are not able to fix it, then change it. Life is just
too short to do something or be with someone who is making you
miserable. Donít worry about your image or what others will think of
you, itís your life not theirs.
Happiness Law 9: Action
Happiness is Action. Action is the most potent
instrument of change
If you want a change, take action. Some people can help you find
momentary happiness, but keeping it requires practice. If you want
to be happy, practice being happy.
Happiness Law 10: Inertia
Happiness is Momentum. Understand the mental law
The law of mental inertia follows the same dynamics as the law of
physical inertia. It takes more effort and force to move an object
than to keep it moving. Once the object picks speed, it becomes much
easier to maintain the movement. In fact, once it is in motion, it
will take more force to stop it or reverse its direction. The mind
behaves in the same way, it will take more initial effort to move
the mind in the direction of happiness, but once it picks up
momentum, it becomes almost effortless and better yet, it will take
more force to stop it or reverse its direction. If you understand
this, it will help you not to quit too soon.
Happiness Law 11: Modeling
Happiness is Modeling. Understand the law of
If you want to become happy chose your role models wisely (Are your
role models famous, rich, powerful or happy?)
Happiness Law 12: Mental Slavery
Happiness is a Free Mind. Beware of mental slavery
Physical slavery is outlawed, but how about mental slavery? Even the
most advanced societies are practicing mental slavery and their main
tool is mind programming. What books, TV channels, newspaper,
spiritual leaders are you allowing to program your mind? Are they
stimulating more fear, hate, anger in you or are they stimulating
understanding, happiness and tolerance? Never underestimate the
power of mental programming. How else do you think, suicide bombers
blow themselves up believing that they are going to heaven? How else
do you think, governments send their citizens to war, killing
themselves and hundreds of thousands of innocent people, while
having them thinking that they are brave and patriotic? If mind
programming can send people to their own deaths, it can be used to
change your life. Deprogram your mind from negative and limiting
programs. Set mind free!
Happiness Law 13: Examine your
Happiness is a Program. Understand and use the
power of mental programming.
Your government, media, parents and teachers are doing it all the
time. It's used in everyday advertising, propaganda, church and
schools. It is social engineering and mass programming by the elite.
Whether we like to admit it or not, we are a product of our
environment and its social programming. You think you are a free
thinker? Think again! This is not some evil government conspiracy,
they are doing their best to develop the society, but the key
question to ask is; "Is their programming making you happy?Ē If not,
then itís probably time to re-examine your life. Aristotle, the
great Greek philosopher, said once, "An unexamined life is not worth
living" He could not be more right. It's time to deprogram your
negative mind scripts and re-write your own positive scripts to
serve your best interest.
Happiness Law 14: Association
Happiness is an Association. Understand the mental
law of association
Your actions, emotions and feelings (good or bad) are a result of
your mental associations.
Advertisers and political media understand that best. They edit
images and verbal messages to associate positive experiences with
their products, people and agendas, while associating negative
images with their competition. If you are not happy, it is time to
re-examine your mental associations. Itís time to reconsider
changing your associations about the things, people and agendas that
are making you and others unhappy.
Happiness Law 15: Thinking
Happiness is a Pattern. The mind thinks in
patterns, therefore you behave and feel in patterns.
Have you noticed how many people repeat the same mistakes over and
over again or change jobs every few years? Have you noticed how
people attract friends of similar characteristics and behave the
same way to most people? If your behavioral pattern is not working
for you, you need to dismantle negative thinking patterns and build
new positive ones.
Happiness Law 16: Positive and
Happiness is a Cycle.
Positive thinking leads to stronger motivation,
which leads to hard work, which leads to success, which leads to
more motivation. Get the picture? The opposite is also
true. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively, break the
negative cycle by thinking and doing something positive. This way
you get out of the negative-feedback loop and get yourself into a
positive-feedback loop that keeps you going strong. Exit the
vicious cycles and enter the virtuous cycles
Happiness Law 17: Information
Happiness is a Decision. Wrong decisions are based
on lack of information or misinformation
Ask yourself, do you have all the information before you take as
important decisions in your life?
Did you validate the information? If you are unhappy now, then
either you have been misinformed or you do not have the necessary
information to make the right decisions. Always examine the
evidence, take time to evaluate your information, the sources of
information, your past actions and reactions, and the results of
each action or inaction.
Happiness Law 18: Instincts
Happiness is Awareness. Contrary to the popular
opinion, don't trust your instincts
Your instincts are as good as your programming and the information
you are fed. You think your instincts and emotions are good for you?
Then can explain why many people are suffering from AIDS, because
they acted on their instincts and had unprotected sex with untested
partner. Can you explain why a husband spends the rest of his life
in jail, because he got angry and killed his wife. Realize that your
instincts and emotions are not always right and your logic can be
faulty. Need evidence? How is your life doing so far? Are your
instincts making your life a happier?
This advice is not against following instincts, it is not about
losing spontaneity or be inhibited, on the contrary, the advice is
dare, Iím asking you to be aware and. Iím asking you to develop your
awareness and install a healthy mental programming, so that your
instincts and emotions serve you better
Happiness Law 19: Open Mind
Be Aware! Happiness is an open mind. The more you
open your mind the more you'll enjoy life.
Beware of stereotypes, prejudices and narrow thinking about things,
experiences and people, they can trap you in a box and make you miss
out on much of what life has to offer you.
Happiness Law 20: Friends
Happiness is Friends. If you want to be happy,
befriend happy people.
Because we learn by association and imitation, whether we like it or
not, we adopt similar characteristics of our family members,
partners and friends, especially after long periods of
companionship. So choose your companions carefully. If you want to
become happier, I recommend you befriend supportive, successful,
optimistic and cheerful friends. This does not mean that you drop or
leave good friends if they suffer from a misfortune, on the contrary
your role is to support them. The more support you give the more
allies you'll build. What I'm saying is to avoid harmful people with
continuous negative thinking patterns. You know them by the constant
criticism of everyone and everything, they tend to have hate,
resentment or anger towards other people. You see them on TV, at
school, work and even churches, mosques and temples.
Happiness Law 21: The Pursuit of
Happiness is not a Pursuit.
An Indian guru once told me that happiness is like a butterfly, if
you chase it, it will run away, but if you relax and sit still, it
will land and rest on your shoulders.
Feel free to pursue love, knowledge, money, power, or fame...but for
happiness to find you, you cannot be restless in your pursuit! Rest
so happiness can enjoy your pursuit.
Happiness Law 22: Media
Happiness is Information. Choose your sources of
Your TV, books and newspapers. It's OK to explore or research
different points of views, even when they are negative, but make
sure that negative information sources are not most of what you
watch. Avoid negative media, horror movies, court shows, hate
authors, war voices and religious programs prophesying the end of
the world. They'll poison your mind and destroy your trust in the
goodness of other people. They will build fear, anxiety, hate,
resentment in your heart and incite negative reactions. All of that
for their own commercial gain or serving their own ideologies and
Happiness Law 23: Fun
Happiness is Fun.
Exercise, listen to happy music, travel, dance, watch sitcoms and
Make sure to treat yourself regularly with a dose of fun. Don't let
work exhaust you and take over your life. Prolonged physical and
mental exhaustion can lead to severe stress and depression. Taking a
break, not only helps relax your mind, but keeps you healthy,
energizes you more and makes you look better.
Happiness Law 24: Focus on Your
Happiness is Focus. Focus on your strengths
Focus helps and pays higher returns on investment. Write down what
you are good at and what people tell you that you are good at, then
leverage your strength in your career and hobbies for a better and
more enjoyable lifestyle.
Happiness Law 25: Manage Your
Happiness is Money. Take care of your Money and
money will take care of you.
Money provides you a comfortable lifestyle, and affords you more
time and opportunities to do what you like. Take care of your money
and your money will take care of you.
Happiness Law 26: Be Realistic
Happiness is Reality. Be realistic, no one has it
While some people are more successful than others, no one has it
all. When someone succeeds phenomenally in one area, there is
usually a heavy at the expense of another area. What is the use of
working all your life to become the richest person in the world, if
you have lost your youth and time at the office? By all means go
after your dreams, but always remember, the most rewarding success
is leading a happy and balanced life. Let go of the unrealistic
ideas (such having it all) and you will become happier.
Happiness Law 27: Adaptation
Happiness is Adaptation. Understand the law of
lifecycles and adapt to it.
Everything in life goes through cycles, the four seasons, the
plants, businesses, economies and countries. The same is true for
your relationships. Do not hold on to unrealistic or romantic
notions such as "forever" or you'll suffer unnecessarily. Countries,
traditions, people, families and relationships change. Do not resent
them or resent yourself, change is life and life is change. While it
is ok to hold on to those you can, do understand that when change is
stronger than existing state, the best way is to let go, so you do
not miss the benefits of the new cycle or a new phase of life.
Happiness Law 28: Say Yes. Say No
Happiness is Yes & No. Learn to say No. Learn to
Learn to say no to demands that pressure your life without a fair
reward in return. Learn to say yes to yourself and to people who
love you and care about you.
Happiness Law 29: A Smart Heart!
Happiness is a Smart Heart.
Think Smart! Feel Smart - Follow Heart! But Teach it to be Smart!
Happiness Law 30: Wisdom
Happiness is Wisdom.
To be wise analyze, do not blame, sympathize.
Happiness Law 31: Now!
Happiness is Now.
The Zen teaches us that happiness is now.
Do not waste the "Now" by thinking about the regrets of the past or
worrying about the future. Enjoy your life Now.